I sometimes get lonely especially when I am down. I think that I am lonely because I don't want to tread on the other persons boundaries. I stand back and isolate myself. This makes the other person upset and think that I am a snob or that I don't care. What I realize is that I want people to respect my boundaries but I don't want to say what those boundaries are. I want them to be assumed. I know this is a flawed way of thinking but I know I am not alone in this thinking. I am striving to not be offended or upset when someone tells me their boundaries and I must not shy away from people who get close to my boundaries and make statements rather than demands when I need to make my boundaries clear.