Guys this is something that I know I've discussed with some of you before so I'm again beating a dead horse. I have some questions though about others perceptions of ourselves. What I think my biggest question about this is are other people able to pick up on subconscious signals I may be sending out? If I'm unhappy, not satisfied with myself then are others able to be able to say this is someone I should steer clear of? I mean wonder to an extent how much I think about things and if I think too deep into various issues. Maybe it comes down to poor choices I've made, continue to make in my life. I think the best example I can give is always being picked last for dodgeball and how that still seems to happen to me today in so many ways. Too what extent should I care what others say, think about me? I know I often hear people say to me; "I don't care what others think about me!" Well I read this book called "The Power of Positive Thinking" In one chapter the author discusses the unique nature of humans and that deep down we do really care what others think about us and it's human to do so. I'd like to be able to live my life with some guidance but I think part of the problem is I don't know where to find a healthy guidance for myself. This then seems to open up a huge can of worms and gets me deep down a I start to wonder what I really want out of life. What is my purpose, why am I here? Where do I belong? When I tell this people, therapists they respond with your depressed. Get some Zoloft and it will take care of your problems. I really don't know who the hell Charlie is? How do we begin to get to know ourselves and not let our pass define us? Is there anything really out there for me?