Had an interesting conversation with a female rape survivor/admitted rapist. She was taunting a male rape survivor on a Yahoo! Answers thread - calling him weak, etc. I sent her a private email and called her out on her shaming and emasculation tactics. She backed down in her response to me and then admitted she had raped her husband repeatedly when unconscious and that he is unaware.

Wow. Then she told me that anything a man does to a woman or a woman does to a man in marriage can never be rape and the partner cannot resist. If they do not consent, the other partner gets to take what they want whenever they want.

And she is a fairly well-known pastor in Virginia. I'll bet she doesn't preach that message quite so clearly from the pulpit.

I feel for her husband and anyone who seeks her counsel with marital affairs.

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