Thanks so much for the reply. It makes me feel so much better knowing that I'm not alone! That's been one of the worst parts of this whole mess, the loneliness. It's easy for people to say "Why don't you just break up?" But as you know, it's far from simple.
Your avatar makes me chuckle. A few months ago, the cantor of my synagogue and his boyfriend announced they were getting married. They were showing off their engagement rings and were kvelling about how they had them specially made at this trendy jewelry store in SoHo.
"That's really nice!" I said, and then gestured to the gold band on my left hand.* "My was forged in the fires of Mount Doom, and unfortunately that's the only place it can be destroyed!"
*I don't wear it anymore. I keep it in the zipper pocket of my wallet when I'm not around him.
We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
~ Oscar Wilde