Maybe someone can help. I am new to this website, but I felt compelled to join and write. I am over 50, but five years ago I realized that when I was just a little guy of 4-6 yrs old, I was abused by our live-in baby-sitter/s (female/s). I have struggled with finding myself going passive when it came time for relations with my wife and in various times where someone made some sexual/physical advance on me through out my life.

I have trouble even now with being able to perform with my wife,even though she is extremely attractive. COuld this all be related aome how? I am not sure what to do.