It is disgusting that our laws are written the way that they are. Who can determine a "magic age" that allows someone to make a consenting decision? Certainly not at 13! I doubt that some 17 or 18 year-olds can be strong enough not to be victimized. When we are so young we do not have the life experience to make some "informed" decisions. Plus, depending on how we were raised, there are those of us who could have been set up to be victimized as adults.

The bottom line is that you didn't deserve what happened to you. Those that did it were older, more powerful and had no business doing what they did. Please forgive that 13-year-old child and understand, as an adult, that our legal justice system is far from perfect.

I firmly believe that we truly reap in life what we sow 10-fold. You may not have seen your abuser punished at the time or even now, but be assured that he WILL pay for his actions somtime, somewhere in life. The best thing that you can do is keep moving forward and getting stronger.


There are no unresolved issues - they just didn't resolve themselves the way we would have liked. "Grinder and Bandler - Neuro-Linguistic Programming"