My brother was abused from the ages of 5-12. We have known he was sexually abused by an older neighbor boy for ten years, now.
Tonight, he just confessed to being a perp on two recent occasions (same boy) and is going to turn himself in. He is likely going to jail.
I've been reading this board for two years, now and I never expected this day to really happen. I'm thankful that being informed allowed me to not feel judgemental about him. I don't know how this will be received by survivors.
All I can say is that I'm sorry about all the pain and confusion this has caused for so many people and I'm scared.
I told him that I loved him and he can talk to me whenever he needs to and that this will hopefully serve as a wake-up call. I don't know how to feel or what to do about a survivor of abuse who is also a perp.
I don't know how someone who has been abused could do the same thing to another person... But my heart aches for him and for those whose lives are affected by this.
Thank you for listening.
Edited by evanescentjoy (11/04/07 11:48 PM)
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