Well, I sent my brother an email asking him to concentrate on getting my fathers estate settled. The five year anniversery of his death comes up in Janaury. I think he must have an issue with him because not only is the estate not settled (its not a hard estate there are only 2 of us and no one is contesting the will), there is no headstone on my fathers grave. Did something happen that I don't remember, I don't know. To help this along I suggested we settle the estate and then worry about the headstone. Anyway the reason I'm posting is because I may need your help in being assertive and keeping after him about this. Alot of us (survivors) aren't very assertive and it doesn't help that my brother is also my abuser.


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