After having talked so much about the need for forgiveness and its importance in initiating our healing, allow me to add an important point - Forgiveness is seldom possible without ever releasing the residual anger or trauma of the experience, as that itself keeps us rooted in the experience and we re-experience it again either in real life through our nightmares.
This can be done either by physically venting out our anger, on a boxing mat, or beating up an imaginary effigy of our abuser.
But the best way according to me is, going back to the abuse experience in a meditation and changing it in our favour. And then change it with the light of gold.
When the energy of the abuse is no longer there to trouble us, we are free, to change anything we wish in the present moment. As then, we are no longer bothered about protecting ourselves as we did till now. We feel safe, as we have altered the energies of our abuse, from dark fear to pure gold!
That we when we can really come into our centre, the present moment, which where our power lies.
Otherwise, our mind keeps running around in all directions, as if trying to escape the pain and trauma of abuse. Once the abuse is healed, the mind feels safe once again and settled down in the present moment, it true centre and we begin to heal, naturally and surely.