How do you all relate to a fa**er that s**u*lly a*u*ed you? How was it to stop seeing and communicating, or how do you relate and how do you feel about relating?
Once i hoped to be able to relate again with my father, to keep the door slightly open, giving him a chance to say "i am sorry", me a chance to get to know more about my fathers family and to relate to my younger halfbrother and -sister.
A therapist advised me to keep distant and work on issues with my father without him.
Keeping distant took a lot of grief. Not only accepting that "it" happened, but also the loss of relating to my father, stephmother, halfbrother and sister.
I don't want to make myself dependent of him once again. I expect him to keep on denying.
Are you willing to tell?
[ October 18, 2001: Message edited by: manchild ]