A more religiously dogmatic view promises a simple answer that we don't have to think around as long as we accept it - that we know what the natural state should be and it's a matter of choice. I respect the religious perspective here - and for some that is enough. That their truth is not my truth does not mean their truth is a lie. On the other hand, there are many here - like me - that have slipped into quiet secrecy when we have failed to meet that "moral" standard.
Well stated. I fully get this.
I went full on religion for most of my life, up until the last 5 years that is.
From my current vantage point, I have had to reject most of my dogmatic thinking to the category of, the blind leading the blind. But I have also found that there's still a lot of valuable truth that I have held onto that was hidden in and among the dogmatic weeds.
I am still a very spiritual person. It's just that I have had to do a lot of carful weeding to sort out the discrepancies of my religious instruction and upbringing. Many teachings were interpreted with strong bias and bigotry and were in clear contradiction to other clear teachings. So much so that it became clear to me that many good people have spiritual blind spots and don't even know it. They have stopped analyzing what they are saying but think because they are more and more passionate that what they are saying is more and more true. Like they have fallen into a self reinforcing loop that just keep getting stronger but has less and less room for rational checks and reflection. The world is full of this type of thing and yes it is very easy to fall into.
I believe that the idea that "Homosexuality equals sin" is one of these loops or religious blind spots. I argue with friends all the time on this one. But there is religious dogmatic thinking in all camps and there certainly has been plenty of soap box certainty on all sides of the debate at times. It's just the more formal religious groups have had a much longer time to prefect it and convenience people that this isn't something to challenge or think about. I argue against all dogma. Not that dogma in and of itself is bad. It's just really easy to beat the drum and never again check to see if it still is making sense in the current age and understanding.
I have seen the use of structured homophobia take over people's thinking and create a pack like frenzy of dogmatic rhetoric that just won't stop. I easily change this and it always leaves them stuck in there silence. The normal protocol is to join in and bash a people group as the cause of all evil. It real make me sad that this goes on in some religious circles. I don't think I am changing and thing by pointing out there fixation but at least they put on a different tone and are carful what they say when I am around.
I may be stepping on some toes, I get that. I am not even saying I am completely right, but I probably am at least some what correct in my thinking.🙂
As for as morally goes, especially around things like homosexuality, we are living in very difficult transitional times. It will take a very long time to influence the inflexible among us. This I believe is a given. Anytime you attempt to elevate yourself at someone else's expense, you tend to have actually lowered yourself substantially. Apparently this is a truth that is very easy to miss.
I believe that we as survivor may actually get to play an important part as our culture continues to transition. After all many of us as male survivors are stuck squarely in the middle of several major societal awakenings. Gay rights, awareness of the epidemic of childhood sexual abuse and human trafficking that continues in our own back yard and around the world. Who better to begin to speak up then us? I think we have a lot to say. And as male survivors have an important and unique perspective on these and many other issues.
If I have causing you or anyone here to slip back into quite secrecy, you have my sister apology. It was never my intention. I bet if it were not for the advancements of the gay rights movement and a lot of these discussions here would not even be able to be happening.
The builders of the original roads rarely get to see the highway that will eventually follow.
Much peace to all concerning these topics. And you