I was just curious as to survivors or family and friends who had had similar info told to them. I wasn't sure that there would be any specific data showing this as a "fact".
I sometimes forget that I actually need to talk about things too., It's not always easy bringing up the past especially with someone who is trying to work through theirs and it is like bringing up past pains.
I decided not to ask this question to my partner., it was a female cousin btw.. thats not saying that later on it might come up but after my initial shock, i think it should be something that he tells me rather than asking, and him feeling like i am pushing him or judging him.
I'm not always the best at keeping a level head when faced with something that upsets me, especially when it comes to my partner.. and taking into consideration that it is his past i think as Esposa mentioned its something i should be careful about..
It really helped to have your opinions and have people to talk too!
thanks for replying all of you! It made a big difference to figuring out if i should say anything or not.