I agree with Rich. I finally figured out all my anger is a response to feeling helpless. I have to teach myself I am not helpless and learn healthy ways of identifying my feelings and expressing them. Therapy is great for this. Also, learning to bring my awareness to myself and my body, to my feelings is key. My abusive experiences created a learned helplessness that was true when I was quite young and my thought processes (brain) not fully formed, but that is true no longer. My experience is that what I need shows up right on schedule if I am aware.
Ultimately I have to teach myself that I have the power to make healthy choices (not helpless any longer) and have the ability to figure out what healthy choices are. I can't really change anyone else. I can only learn to express who I truly am, which involves working through my damaged places, and observe how healthy I'm becoming by noticing what kind of energy I'm attracting. It's an honest feedback system, though the feedback is not always what I'd prefer to hear.
Best of luck,
Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards