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#460653 - 02/13/14 10:45 PM Article from Home Town Newspaper

Registered: 08/31/11
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I had remarked to someone in my hometown about the lack of coverage of CSA. Behold he sent an article that had been in my local newspaper in the town of my abuse. I must say I was proud someone had written of the atrocities of CSA. At least all people are not walking through life with blinders. Below is the text of the article.

"Thanks to the hard work of survivors and advocates, more attention has been given to childhood sexual abuse.

The words sexual abuse and sexual assault are part of our everyday conversations at home and around the water cooler. They are the also why Jerry Sandusky was overwhelmingly convicted in 45 of 48 charges last week.

Collectively the stories of Sandusky’s victims are hard to hear — their recollections graphic and ugly. Each story wrought with the survivor’s pain and trauma.

Their bravery is omnipresent. To persevere the rigors a trial of this magnitude is an act of valor. They are as brave and heroic as any soldier who has confronted the enemy.

These young men have declared a national, perhaps, international war against the stigma of sexual abuse.

Conservative estimates of reported sexual abuse state that 1 in 6 males will be victims of sexual assault before their 18th birthday.

We need to shed a more realistic light on the words sexual assault and sexual abuse. It’s more than ‘icky touches’ by the bogeyman. This bogeyman is a sniper — a sly and manipulating enemy. At his disposal, an endless arsenal of weapons. Lies. Threats. Fear. Intimidation. Pornographic material. Unthinkable physical acts. This enemy is rarely a stranger; more likely he’s an acquaintance or well known to the child and his family. However, the child is totally and utterly powerless over this enemy. It’s a battle he can’t possibly win.

Most disturbing is the great length Sandusky went to target, and ultimately control his young victims. It was a calculated process that began by wooing the parent(s). Once victorious over the adults, the children eventually succumbed. They may have been conscientious objectors. That was of no consequence to this enemy; he was bigger and stronger. The children were ultimately powerless.

An abuser’s message is laced with lies and half-truths. The child is brainwashed to believe the abuser cares for him – perhaps even loves him. He is conditioned to feel special with gifts, favors, and tales of never-ending affection.

An abused child suffers a battlefield death of sorts, often referred to as the death of his soul. No longer is he a child within a young boy’s body. His emotional development immediately altered the moment the abuse started. His changing moods and behaviors could have been misinterpreted or completely dismissed as those of a headstrong child struggling to maintain the enemy’s secret, while simultaneously fighting for his place in an adult world. It’s the beginning of a lifelong battle to hide the scars of sexual abuse.

Traumatic experiences and memories are often buried deep within the private battlefield of a victim’s conflicted mind. He feels powerless, confused, angry, and hurt. Like war veterans, some men sexually abused as children resort to risky behaviors; they may act out sexually or violently, abuse drugs or alcohol. Desperate to stop the pain, some opt for self-injury or suicide.

One victim testified that Sandusky referred himself ‘the tickle monster’ who just wanted to hug so hard as to “squeeze your guts out.” What began as tickling was actually a deliberate act to disarm and overtake the boy.

Assault survivors can experience flashbacks and panic years after their abuse has stopped. All it takes is a look, a word or feeling to jumpstart the process.

A survivor not related to Sandusky’s trial, described that tickling as ‘affectionate abuse.’ He admitted to feelings of jealousy. To this survivor, Sandusky was playful; his abuser was violent. Like so many survivors of sexual assault, he was transported back to a time when he was a defenseless, powerless little boy. The enemy’s brainwashing prevailed once again.

Today, there are more resources available to survivors and their families than ever before. We must do more to educate and protect our children. Seize the opportunity to use Sandusky’s trial as a learning tool for yourself and your children. Every child deserves a fighting chance. Listen to their voices. Observe their behaviors. Challenge yourself and others. Believe them.

1 in 6 boys is unacceptable."

#460746 - 02/14/14 11:55 PM Re: Article from Home Town Newspaper [Re: KMCINVA]
Chase Eric Offline

Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 2889
Most disturbing is the great length Sandusky went to target, and ultimately control his young victims. It was a calculated process that began by wooing the parent(s). Once victorious over the adults, the children eventually succumbed.

Precisely what the older boy next door did - schmoozed my mom (and all the moms - almost seemed to flirt with them) - and then I was such easy pickins' for him. I look back at it and it was embarrassingly easy for him.

It took me so long to forgive my mom...


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