Adam A Gedman -
Your story is quite affecting, and I know you'll find some excellent support here. A few things pop out at me. Comparing traumas is sort of like comparing scrapes and injuries when you're twelve. It's not like one trauma is more worthy than another. They all affect us so differently. I could get stung by five bees a year for ten years and still be OK, while another person gets stung once in their life and dies. It's not the trauma but how we are wired to respond to it that is more significant, IMHO.
Also, I have found (true for me at least) that those who care the most can often be the least effective people to go to for support with this. That's why I like MS so much - having gone through CSA is such an isolating thing, and sometimes the shared experience of a stranger is more impacting and supportive than all the love of a spouse or domestic partner. People at MS invariably know more about my history and progress than even my partner, as weird as that sounds. It helps to work to understand that dynamic, because it is so counter-intuitive.