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#429722 - 04/01/13 04:18 PM The perks of being a wallflower
ig3 Offline

Registered: 04/04/12
Posts: 81
I saw this movie "The perks of being a wallflower," and thought to ask if others have watched it too. It relates to the life of a teenager, I won't say more, but it has to do with the topic of CSA too.

#429723 - 04/01/13 04:22 PM Re: The perks of being a wallflower [Re: ig3]
nltsaved Offline

Registered: 08/27/08
Posts: 938
Loc: Kc,Mo
I thought the movie was incredible
Video of me telling my story
you are not alone never were
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#429725 - 04/01/13 04:29 PM Re: The perks of being a wallflower [Re: ig3]
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Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 397
Loc: Midwest
I haven't seen the movie, but I read the book. It was a very interesting set of circumstances that lead me to reading the book. I saw it in an airport bookstore, and despite not knowing a thing about it, not even knowing it had been made into a movie, it piqued my interest. I had to buy it and I did. When I read it, I could easily identify with the main character. He reminded me of Holden Caulfield, the protagonist in Catcher in the Rye. I'm not going to say that the main character reminded me of myself in my teen years, or that I wanted to be like him, but I could definitely relate to his life, his experiences, and his reactions to life. At the end, when the secret of his CSA came to light, I was very moved. I guess I could relate because I knew that could have easily been me. That book has been very influential on me and it has helped me understand my past better. It's a very powerful book and definitely worth reading.


#429744 - 04/01/13 07:19 PM Re: The perks of being a wallflower [Re: ig3]
DRA Offline

Registered: 02/08/13
Posts: 49

I watched the movie on a lark; it looked interesting and I enjoy Emma Watson's acting. I had no idea it was about CSA.

Having watched the movie, I had to read the book and did so within 24 hours. That was around January 4th or 5th. By January 20th, I'd realized that I needed to deal with my CSA. The Perks of Being a Wallflower has been a deep source of inspiration and realization, helping me to open up about my past and examine it more honestly.


Strength in power is a false victory rooted in vapid grandiosity. Strength in character and integrity is the freedom to act righteously irrespective of the surrounding pressure. True power is the presence of mind to live with character and integrity.

#429868 - 04/03/13 12:24 AM Re: The perks of being a wallflower [Re: ig3]
ig3 Offline

Registered: 04/04/12
Posts: 81
I watched the movie on a plane, I just generally like stories about coming of age, kind of like Glee with "awkward" characters, because I was one too. Still am.

Then the movie showed a couple of gay characters, and I was interested in that too.

Then the CSA and I could totally relate, even though my abuse was different. It helped explained the wallflower personality as something probably beyond standard shyness, and the mental-health issues, which I have also had.

I liked the ending too, I won't say more. I recommend it.


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