this thread reminded me of another one that goes back a while about the obvious signs and symptoms of abuse, called "What did your people miss?":http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...9375#Post379375
... just in case anyone is in doubt about whether there was really enough for anyone observing to notice!
btw - i was actually taken to our family doctor for some of those conditions - but at the time - NO ONE knew anything about this stuff. AND the doctor was a personal friend of the step-dad's going way back. so - no hope for any help there either.
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"