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#428553 - 03/20/13 10:54 PM Re: Craigslist Addiction [Re: lbcali1978]
Mountainous Buck Offline

Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1627
Loc: Minnesota
Thanks for sharing this.

the idea of hunting, searching, and finding some level of intimacy ( no matter how false ) has stolen so many hours and days of my time that its painful. It never really delivers connection for me , and only increases my isolation and feelings of brokenness.

The remedy I have found is to avoid it altogether and seek healthy relationships and intimacy of all types- emotional, physical (non sexual) as well as sexual intimacy. Never found that online or from personal ads.

It's been a long time since I got stuck on that old road- I need to get my adrenaline fix and needs for affirmation in more lasting ways. I am grateful for the honesty u bring to this topic.

Edited by Mountainous Buck (03/20/13 11:19 PM)
We have to take responsibility for what we're not responsible for.

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It matters where you go" Frank Turner

#428607 - 03/21/13 11:16 AM Re: Craigslist Addiction [Re: Survivinguy]
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 7011
Loc: FEMA Region 1
Originally Posted By: Survivinguy

And, sorry, but I agree with the other replies, it is very likely related to your abuse history. It's frustrating how many ways childhood sexual abuse infects our lives...


I fully believe the science and argument of "early mental-imprinting." Consider that for many of us, our first orgasms and first sexual experience is with said abusers. I did the math once: My first 1000 or so orgasms were with the perps, via prolonged anal intercourse (over 7 year period, age 7.5 to 14+).

Some would call that "imprinting". I call it "engraved into my brain's core with a hot iron."

Its hell! Its true HELL. I was never with my wife, in the sanctity of our bed, when those four creeps were not there with me. NEVER!

Its a life-sentence for us; Its an orgasm for them!

I have zero tolerance for perps and those who protect them, mostly because of this life-long residual burden.

EDIT: I know for a fact that some perpetrators read here at MS. Not much of what we say and xperience burns through to their hearts or emotions. But I hope they can at least realize (intellectually or emotionally) that this sticks with us....forever!

Edited by Still (03/21/13 11:20 AM)

#428720 - 03/22/13 03:21 PM Re: Craigslist Addiction [Re: lbcali1978]
Country Offline

Registered: 02/29/12
Posts: 654
Loc: Alabama
I can relate. It is easy for us as survivors to become addicted to things. Constantly working in this in my own life. Great post and topic
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

#428722 - 03/22/13 03:30 PM Re: Craigslist Addiction [Re: lbcali1978]
Double_D Offline

Registered: 03/21/13
Posts: 4
Loc: Niagara, Ontario, Canada

Good to see I'm not alone, I share the same attraction to craigslist.

you said it best

"It's more the adrenaline of the whole process of reading the posts and getting the conversations started"

been caught by my wife twice...working on mending our relationship....i desperately want to stop.


#428819 - 03/23/13 11:34 AM " [Re: Double_D]
lbcali1978 Offline

Registered: 02/16/12
Posts: 217

Edited by lbcali1978 (04/28/13 11:55 PM)
They said

Come home

I said

I'm confused and alone

They said

We understand

I found out they don't

I'll walk the path exactly how I've always done it


#429002 - 03/24/13 10:59 PM Re: Craigslist Addiction [Re: lbcali1978]
cuda Offline

Registered: 02/05/12
Posts: 22
Loc: TN
Double D

We care about you.


Re: Hugs versus porn [Re: SamV]
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Those looking for virtual hugs should go to the nicest place on the internet! If you have a webcam or camera, you can donate a hug, too. smile
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