Hi Matt. Just got caught up on this thread as I wasn't here hen you first posted it. Wow. Powerful stuff.
Part of me feels like I should go to see his house because if I could see a welcome mat, a mailbox he had to check, a garbage can he had to take out, he'd seem less fiendish and irresistibly powerful. Though since my mental image of such a visit also includes me guilting the daughter into shelling out some token sum for my therapy bills, I think more of a reality check is in order. I might just look... don't really know why.
I'd say do it. Couldn't hurt, right? Maybe it will help, maybe it won't, but I doubt it could hurt. Sounds like something I'd do were I in your shoes. Also, I'd like to echo peroperic's suggestion of going ahead and trying to write that letter. Maybe just sit down and start writing. A couple of lines if nothing else and see where it goes. It may go nowhere and it may wind up being the most therapeutic thing you've ever done. Who knows? You won't know until and unless you try though. And, as is always the case with these letters, you don't have to send it, just write it. Although, I wouldn't disagree with your sending it either if you did. Who knows, if you wrote his ass a really angry letter and detailed exactly what he did to you and how it damaged you, it might stress him out so much that he has a heart attack and kicks off right then and there. That would be cool, right? Peace,