I wrote a letter to my abuser. Posted it here shortly after joining. Mailed it to him several days after that. It was not short and sweet like Jasper's. I think I still have a copy of it on my other computer.
It was a powerful thing, for me. Because it was the first step of confrontation. Several weeks after the letter, he and I, we had occasion to be in the same place at the same time. And for the first time in years, upon seeing him, I did not unthinkingly take a step back. I kept moving forward. That was quite powerful as well.
As Bill said, even writing it out and NOT sending it can be powerful and healing. As for the other boy as well, that one I am not so sure of. It is tricky issue, whether to speak or not speak. Perhaps he is in denial, or has blocked out what happened. But perhaps he is scared, and hoping someone will help him to open up. It is a very hard thing to know how to act on. I will leave it to brighter minds then mine to give advice on that one!
Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.
"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963