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#8214 - 05/11/04 09:38 PM Re: Flipping the switch
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts
Marc, and others,

Humor is a release and relief. People facing horrendous situations respond more often than not by making jokes about them.

Two examples of "gallows humor."

A married Jewish couple in Germany during World War Ii got arrested and were sent to Dachau, whose purpose was known to those in Germany, even by those certain to die there, at that time. All through the trip, they faught like animals, blaming each other for the predicament they were in, who was the more stupid, unlucky, asenine, etc. Finally, through the last mile, they rode in angry, sullen silence past, despite the horror of the situation, a beautiful, pastoral farmland, a scene that has been chronicled to be a comfort to those who survived the terrible place they went to.

Finally, the train rolls through the gate and they're unloaded. The husband shrieks at his wife, "I just want you to know that you RUINED my trip to Dachau!"

There is a legend in Ireland that one on his or her deathbed is allowed to ask one question before they die that MUST be answered honestly. To lie to the dying is a grave sin that will put the liar into Hell when THEY die, no absolution possible.

So it was that one of my ancestors, the story goes, was facing his final day on Earth with his wife, Colleen, and his five sons around him. Four of the lads were right tall, strapping fellers who could field a side of rugby all by themselves. The last sone was a small, puny thing who couldn't beat an egg.

Conner O'carre (my ancestor, three-or-four-greats grandfather) gasps out to his wife, "Colleen, my time's almost gone, and I can see St. Patrick waiting for me at the Jerusalem gate (we were always flowery talkers). It's time for the question." Summoning the last of his strength, he points at the smallest lad at the bed and mutters, "is he really our son?"

Colleen nods and kisses old Connor's head. "Yes, love, he is."

Connor smiles, breathes his last, and goes on to meet St. Patrick at the Jerusalem Gate. Once she's sure Connor's soul is out of earshot, Colleen crossed herself and whispered, "Praise Mary he didn't ask about the other four!"

Just an example of how out of absolute darkness, humor always comes. It must. In the end, it's the only thing we can do to keep from giving up. And you STILL found humor, Marc, in your darkest hour.

A man after my own heart. A true sone of Ireland. \:D

Peace and love,


There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#8215 - 05/12/04 02:39 AM Re: Flipping the switch
TeeJayUU Offline

Registered: 04/30/04
Posts: 314
Loc: MidWest
GO MARC GO!!!! \:\) \:\) \:\) \:\) \:\) \:\) \:\)



"There is a plan for me, God has a Purpose, I know there is a reason that I'm ALIVE!" Cherish Grace

#8216 - 05/12/04 03:16 AM Re: Flipping the switch
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1984
Loc: Flint, Michigan

It doesn't much matter how you get from the thoughts to out of the thoughts. Just so long as you do. Be it, being in a joking mood. Be it, placing a curse upon a certain coffee pot ;\) .

Keep up the getting your mind out of there, however you can do it,

Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

#8217 - 05/12/04 07:31 AM Re: Flipping the switch
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Registered: 02/12/04
Posts: 83
Loc: Florida
\:D \:D \:D \:D \:D \:D

"By way of trials and sufferings we must purify the divine image in us...for it is by reforging our senses in the furnace of our trials that we free them from defilement and assume our royal dignity. --Abba Philimon

#8218 - 05/13/04 11:37 PM Re: Flipping the switch
RICK57 Offline

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Marc - don't worry about this one!

I have some friends that I've known since 1991....the first name that they gave me was 'Coco' just like a circus clown. They gave me the name because I always appeared to be laughing & joking without a care in the world. I broke down & told them about my abuse in late 2001 - they were shocked / supportive, but could hardly comprehend that 'I was so ****ed up' behind the smile!

Dec 18th last year I cracked big style & now people understand so much more.

My moods can change like clouds passing over the sun.... one second bright second shaded & so on.

People begin to understand (in my experience) once they know why.

Best wishes Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!


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