You bring up an interesting point and it's something that is relevant to my recent conversation with my parents. Bear in mind that my parents are a little older than you but what you said somewhat applies to my situation as well.
It's no wonder they failed to understand our troubles, they're the same troubles as they experienced I've no doubt, but we have information.
My mother said that her family treated her the same way and that she ended up "normal and okay." My gut response was to say "take a look at yourself!" But I didn't want to become malicious and so I never said it. I think that for her she never had any information in which to judge herself and to see that things don't have to be the way that they are. Actually I think that she really didn't let any new information near her. Maybe it was safer for her to do that. In that way she didn't have to deal with any problems. Maybe the information could have been scary. I don't know. Just a thought.
For me, information has been a wonderful gift. I don't know where I would be today with out the internet and massive bookstores and everything else. Anyway, that was a good post, Dave.