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#7446 - 05/09/04 12:57 AM Re: Why do you care?
Arthur Offline
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Registered: 03/29/04
Posts: 25
Loc: Florida
I can only speak for myself here:
When I care for you, because I have so much past trauma and recovery work in common with you that it helps me take another step in believing that maybe I, too, am worth the care that has been given to me by people like you, who know my pain and still believe I am worthy of their care.



#7447 - 05/09/04 01:08 AM Re: Why do you care?
onlyakid Offline

Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1577
Loc: New Jersey
I care about you because I've gotten to know you over the past few weeks and consider you a friend. I think your a great guy who I like to talk to during chats, etc.


"Being with people that understand you...Priceless"

"and i don't want the world to see me, cause i don't think that they'd understand"

"You don't know what love just do as your told"

"My life has changed. What you take as a simple thing, is not so simple for me anymore"

#7448 - 05/09/04 01:18 AM Re: Why do you care?
theo Offline

Registered: 09/28/03
Posts: 1122
why? because we have been there for one thing. i know what it is like to be alone. this is the place where i know i am not. i know i care because of what i have experienced myself being alone, as well as responding to those brothers who are here. why care? because when we touch a life, a journey, we are no longer alone. isolation is the greatest impediment to accepting that our personal journey touches those of others. when we can see that the isolation is no longer complete we hav e to accept that what is important is what is shared. when you no longer stand alone you realize that you no longer have to face the darkness alone. why care? because we have been there, done that, and we treasure the t-shirt that we have earned in that shared journey.

marc, i care because i have been there. it took a literal miracle to save my life. not many have that kind of intervention. i had family, friends, and reasons i did not know at the time, to live, but none of that mattered because i was so alone. you no longer stand alone, marc. we stand with you. pm me, bro, if you need me. the void left behind is something i know so tragically well. had i not been blessed with the miracle that saved my life, so many would have been irrevocably harmed. it is not about guilt, marc. i could not see that i was loved because i could not see that i existed as a human being. you are not alone, my friend. we are here because we are. take care, marc. i am here if you need me.

journey well,
theo dewolfe

- It is gift, and gift will find its way
- I inherit through my choice. I build through my affirmation. It is through my freedom that I nurture, or fade into autonomy
- I was not given to serve life, but to embrace it

#7449 - 05/09/04 02:10 AM Re: Why do you care?
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1984
Loc: Flint, Michigan

Why do I care? When we stop caring, humanity ceases to exist and evil rules.
Why do I care? You are a person. A unique and worthy individual.
Why do I care? That is an action that far exceeds the problem.
Why do I care? I know the feeling. Been there, done that, had my stomache pumped.
Why do I care? That is a mistake I made once and I am lucky to be here today.
Why do I care? When we stop caring, we go down that same road.
Why do I care? Because I do. I just do.

Take care,

Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

#7450 - 05/09/04 02:11 AM Re: Why do you care?
MrDon Offline

Registered: 01/08/01
Posts: 957
Loc: Deltona, FL
I've been right in the same shoes you are in... and people in my life at the time kept me alive... if it wasn't for someone caring, I wouldn't be here today...

When you can't hang on, we will reach out and hold on to you until you can once again hang on... it is called being a survivor and knowing just how damn hard it is to go through this stuff.


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#7451 - 05/09/04 03:21 AM Re: Why do you care?
MikeNY Offline

Registered: 03/07/04
Posts: 927
Loc: NY
I care because that is who I am. I have always cared. I will always care. Despite how many people there are out there who do not care, I will continue to care. It's part of what separates us from the animals that brought us here. I do not discriminate on race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, or in any other way. I care. Period. My SA has tried to take that from me. I will not let them win. I care about you Marc, so you better get used to it.

"Every child asks the questions which hold the answers to the secrets of the universe, WHAT?, and WHY?". --Me

#7452 - 05/09/04 04:13 AM Re: Why do you care?
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts
Let me ask you one of my own.

Why did YOU care for ME?

That answers yours and mine.

Peace and love,


There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#7453 - 05/09/04 04:26 AM Re: Why do you care?
yesac76 Offline

Registered: 03/23/04
Posts: 508
Loc: Idaho
Why do I care? Why should I not? You have been hurt, I have been hurt. You are seeking help, I am seeking help. You are a living, breathing person, I am a living, breathing person.
If I did not care, my abuser would win!
I care because I have a heart, and it hurts when other people hurt. I want to change the world, one person at a time. I may be naive, but I believe I can take my pain and use it to help my fellow human beings.
I care about everyone, even those who tick me off.
Mostly I care because I have a heart full of love, and so I have more than enough to share with the world!

"You live it or lie it" Metallica

#7454 - 05/09/04 07:44 AM Re: Why do you care?
one_day_at_a_time Offline

Registered: 01/03/03
Posts: 42
Loc: North Carolina
Dear Marc,
We care because we relate. We know what it is like to experience those feelings and we obviously can relate to the experience that brought you to feel that one.

Please dont give up. There are so many days when I want to stop. So many days when I want to act out. I have to remain faithful to my God and beleive that he will lead me throught it. And he will for you too.

There is a phrase that I made that I really like:

Life is one of those crazy things that is always changing, it is your faith that must remain unmoved. Trust in the Almighty creator for his will, will always be in your favor.

Please make it through for us and I care about you.

Much love and hope to you my brother,
One Day

I found God

now I just need to find myself

#7455 - 05/09/04 11:18 AM Re: Why do you care?
Archnut Offline

Registered: 10/26/02
Posts: 343
Loc: United Kingdom

I care because I am in that place you are now as well. I find it hard to believe that people do care for me. The guys do here. The guys in my home group actually miss me. Im joining them on Monday for the first time in six months. These feelings come and go and each time they do come and go I usually find some crazy answer.

People see the good in me. Thank heavens for that as I sure dont see it myself.

Take care Marc and take it easy and slow down I think this is where I say moods swings. They are a pain in the b%cks*de but it is possible to ride them out. How do I know?......I'm doing it I think. \:\)

Lets put it this way this week sure is better than last week.

"And all that was left was hope"

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