I really wonder sometimes when I read the messages. I had “forgotten” that other than the abuse there was a group that really caused me grief in school. These were teen boys who
I assume were straight but who knows how they turned out.
All they wanted to do was usually just tease and humiliate the “little sissy” “homo”. But we all know what some wanted. Most of the guys were “discreet” but a few liked to have friends
watch as I “did them”. Being queer in the 1960’s was rough.
The younger posters around have some idea what it was like as I know some rural areas are no fun to be gay in still. It seems as if it was “ok” for straight boys to either tease the fairy
or ask him to do something.
Now gay bashing is still a sport for some but at least it is viewed as illegal.
I still wonder what motivated them. I wonder how many boys never realized that the guy who was forcing them was not a gay predator but just a
sexual thug. I still do not consider getting teased or harassed as “abuse” as it was peer pressure that drove most of the teens. I’d need input from a straight guy about this. It was just done back then. 99% of the guys that messed with me and any other “fairy” had no sexual intent. I never feared most all as it was just how it was. It was that 1% that I suspect went on to
“hate crimes”. I never said no so I never really got beat up but I knew teens that were, suspect that this 1% were also after the girls as well.
Most teen girls were very supportive as many of my worst tormentors were very unpopular with the girls. By high school I sort of lost my tormentors as many moved or joined the army at 17. My abusers from junior high were adults, and knew which kids were potential recruits based upon not only how I acted and looked but likely from other boys talking about it.
Read elsewhere about some guy being abused by his father and offered the choice of going along or getting beaten.
Talk about a rough thing to deal with. I was lucky, I did not really mind getting whacked
but feared getting used “like a girl”. It is strange how I ended up playing with the girls until they got old enough to think about dating and such. Felt safe around them. If you have read other posts you have seen I do know a bit more than most on “crossdressing”.
Who cares? Abuse was the etiology (cause) of my liking to wear a dress sometimes.
Did it for “fun” not any sexual thing. And I did not go out to leather bars in a nice
It was a phase, besides the guys that would hit on me in Denver were very much gentlemen. So, sorry I am not transgender but really like those who are
sometimes “hiding” behind that make up and such. This was the one area I did not bring up in therapy. I do have a sense of being honest here. But I approach this aspect with humor! Trust me my female therapist -I never see men- was a fashion challenged woman.