Hmmm...an interesting statement, and a lot of interesting responses.
This is a funny thing. I live in Massachusetts and you'd THINK that it'd be easy to be gay and meet people outside the context of "the bars" - we're more liberal than Soviet Russia and we legalized same sex marriage for God's sake - but it isn't. Dare to be open in a social situation and there's always a chance for at the very LEAST "the look of disdain." At the worst, you're a target of a bashing.
You see, I'm still fighting the whole sexuality argument - attracted to guys, attracted to women, wanting to be in a deep emotional/sexual relationship with SOMEBODY - but the only way I've met guys is through the internet and than it's only sex. Sometimes, even, the experience has ended rather badly.
The only way I can be sure guys are "gay" or "looking" are at the bars. And there's only two I've liked that aren't the "leather/clubbing scene." Even there, it's just looking to "score," which is what the bar scene in general is about. What to do?
I don't know. I don't want to just cruise for sex. Been there, done that. Maybe someday I'll be in the place where I can be confident enough to be open when in a situation I like socially.
You're not alone in this, guys.
Peace and love,
There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies