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#73060 - 01/10/05 12:27 AM I came out!
conor Offline
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Registered: 11/01/04
Posts: 10
Loc: Dublin, Ireland
Happy New Year! I hope to have a very new one...

I am 21 and I have my entire life ahead of me.

I am looking forward to it for the first time in my life. Not too long ago I was very depressed about the future. I hated looking ahead and seeing nothing but more confusion.

I am a third year engineering student. I have done everything right with regards to getting myself ready for a career. I have more prospects than most of my friends. I am an extremely fun person to be around. Never a dull moment with me. I am often told this and that I am a great friend. I have some great friends too. But more importantly I have my health. I am fit, I swim almost everyday. I have a great relationship with my family. They will always be there for me.

I am writing all this as a realisation for myself that I am such a lucky person. Sometimes we need to say things like this to ourselves to make us feel better right? Itís my way of making Ďmeí feel better. Perspective, I think thatís what they call it.

"Why in the world should I be depressed, things are bloody great!"

My SA isn't bothering me much lately. I still have the odd low moment but the fact that I am where I am today is inspiration for me to go further. I feel stronger. Am I wrong to feel better than others because I went through what I went through and came out fine in the end? My SA came back to haunt me a few months ago and I decided to get help and ultimately get over it. I think I have done just that. I know it'll never be gone completely but the good exceeds the bad so to speak and thatís what matters to me.

Is this worthy of posting in here? I just had to post as it was in the last few days I came out to my two best friends and they are so cool about it. I've never felt like this before and I like it. Maybe my 'coming out' situation is a lot easier than others may be faced with but I'd like to say that putting aside what others think was the most important thing for me. I do care what others think but I realise I will think worse of me than they will. Low self esteem being one of my problems. I have to constantly remind myself of this.

Anyway thanks for reading if you got this far I just wanted to update MS on me. I havnít posted since autumn.

Conor


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#73061 - 01/10/05 01:51 AM Re: I came out!
Rustam Offline
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Registered: 10/27/04
Posts: 474
Loc: UK
Good for you Conor, what an exciting positive start to the New Year.

It was well worth posting, great stuff.

Rustam


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#73062 - 01/10/05 06:20 AM Re: I came out!
yesac76 Offline
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Registered: 03/23/04
Posts: 508
Loc: Idaho
Conor,

Of course this is worth posting here. I am very happy for you. I hope the good times continue for the rest of your life!

Casey

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#73063 - 01/10/05 01:09 PM Re: I came out!
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
hey! :-) right on!!!!

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#73064 - 01/10/05 04:00 PM Re: I came out!
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Conor whether you realize it or not by being true to yourself and honest with others and yourself you have made a huge step forward in your self esteem and worth. It is not a sin to be straight. Nor is it a sin to be Gay. You are normal. Nuff said.

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#73065 - 01/20/05 08:49 PM Re: I came out!
Morning Star Offline
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Registered: 12/21/04
Posts: 1124
Loc: Home
Thank you Conor for giving spring such an early start!
Bless you!
\:\)

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~ It's over!...Let go of Thy Past, Remember Thy Self ~

Why Don't People Heal, by Caroline Myss; 30 days to clean up your vibrations - Abraham-Hicks

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#73066 - 01/26/05 07:48 PM Re: I came out!
MikeInFlorida Offline
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Registered: 11/27/04
Posts: 43
Loc: Titusville
Congratulations!!

It only took me 37 years!! Welcome (from one to another) to the rest of your life as a gay man!!

Mike

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#73067 - 04/12/05 04:05 PM Re: I came out!
conor Offline
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Registered: 11/01/04
Posts: 10
Loc: Dublin, Ireland
Cant believe I forgot to thank you guys for your kind words!

THANKS A MILLION!!!!!!!!!!!

X

Conor


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#73068 - 04/28/05 07:23 AM Re: I came out!
Kenn Offline
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Registered: 07/10/04
Posts: 146
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Conor,

21 and "out" and dealing with your s.a. - wow, you have the potential for a promising life ahead of you.

I came out when I was 21, too...but that was 24 years ago and I put myself through a lot of grief because I had not yet acknowledged my past.

Congratulations!

Kenn

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#73069 - 05/17/05 01:14 PM Re: I came out!
sophiesdad Offline
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Registered: 04/30/05
Posts: 462
Loc: Florida
Conor:
I know that I'm a day late and a dollar short, but I just wanted to congratulate you on such a healthy and self-respecting view of yourself! You do have a full life ahead of you and it's good that you are able to sort out things in your life that many people never discover - EVER.
You are also lucky that you live in an age where being gay is far more accepted than it was even 10 years ago. That isn't to say that there is still prejudice, but it is FAR less.
I think that you will find that close, true and loyal friends will be very accepting of you and males who are comfortable with their own sexual identity will not feel threatened.
Always be true to yourself and know that you are a good human being who deserves to live a happy, fulfilling and productive life. And, hopefully, when the time is right, you will find someone who loves you unconditionally with whom you can share a lifetime together.

Sophiesdad

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