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#72841 - 10/06/04 07:57 AM Re: This one is confusing (Possible triggers)
Ivo Offline

Registered: 05/08/04
Posts: 267
Loc: Germany
for me this is clear situation.
Your boss wanted to have sex with you. You can not blame yourself that you were encouraged him.
Do not be confused with the fact that he is "straight", pure declaration with wife and kids means nothing.
Guy with kids and wife wanted to f**** me and thank God that I was able to escape him. I do not care if he is straight or what.
Your boss broke, yeah old story again, your personal borders by all means. He probably thought that you would positively respond just because you are gay.
I mean people tend to have a lot of wrong ideas in their mind.
And Marc, despite everything, it is normal that some of the people would find you sexually attractive, you do not have to feel nor shame nor guilt because of that.


#72842 - 10/06/04 09:26 PM Re: This one is confusing (Possible triggers)
Kenn Offline

Registered: 07/10/04
Posts: 146
Loc: Toronto, Canada
From my distance I would say that it was an uninvited, i.e. non-consenting advance/assault. The fact that you're gay is HIS excuse - and a damn poor one at that. He was just acting out the stereotyped notion that because gay men have sex with men ALL gay men would want to have sex with ALL men.

As a survivor, in a state of sleep, you lashed out completely naturally, in my opinion.


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