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#72231 - 02/08/04 03:18 PM Hola everyone
Eddy Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 02/08/04
Posts: 2
Loc: So. Cali
Hi all,

I just registered here and wanted to say hi to everyone. I'm a 22y.o. guy and I'm really glad I came across this site today. I've never really had anyone to talk to about my past abuse. Especially not anyone who could understand what it's like to deal with being gay too. That's pretty much all I have to say for now...It's 6:16AM here so I'm kinda tired heh. Look forward to talking with you guys.


#72232 - 02/08/04 03:26 PM Re: Hola everyone
dwf Offline
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Registered: 05/24/03
Posts: 1223
Loc: Austin, Texas USA
Hello Eddy,

And welcome to MaleSurvivor. I'm always glad to see guys find this place at a young age; that way maybe they won't have to go through as much confusion for as many years as I did. I am 49.

Hope you will come back. Read, post, interact with others--all ways of lessening the dreadful secrecy that is a part of the legacy of sexual abuse. It all helps.

And that's what MS is here for.

Glad you found us.

"Poke salad Annie, 'gators got you granny
Everybody said it was a shame
'Cause her mama was aworkin' on the chain-gang"

-Tony Joe White

#72233 - 02/08/04 05:25 PM Re: Hola everyone
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Eddy as Danny says welcome and yes it is good to see you joining us at such a young age. I am 63 and my abuse happened when I was 16. I did not do anything about it till I was 56.

Now you will find no jugements here or condemnation only compassion, strong shoulders and togetherness that only comes between true brothers. There is no discrimation of any sort here.

So I hope you read post and lend your shoulders to others when needed as we all heal.



#72234 - 02/08/04 06:13 PM Re: Hola everyone
ScottyTodd Offline
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Registered: 02/12/03
Posts: 1561
Loc: Pennsylvania
Hey Eddy - Welcome to the site!! Sorry you had to go through what brought you here BUT this is definitely the place to talk it out, ask questions, vent, find others who went through what you've experienced, read good articles about what's happening...all around - This is THE PLACE!!

I too am glad you are young and seeking help. I find if you are not in your late teens to early twenties, you bury the garbage until you're about 35-55. As you process through what our perps have left us with, you have a good chance to overcome it! It takes hard work on your part!!

You've lucked into a great bunch of guys - knowledgable, caring, committed to recovery! Again, welcome on board!!!


If you think you can or you can't - you're right!.......anon
It's never too late to have a happy childhood!.....anon
You're very normal for the abnormal situation you've been through..............S. Todd

#72235 - 02/08/04 10:31 PM Re: Hola everyone
MrDon Offline

Registered: 01/08/01
Posts: 957
Loc: Deltona, FL
Hello Eddy,
Just wanted to say welcome and glad you found the place. You are definately not alone. I didn't come to terms with being gay until just a few years ago so it has added another dimension to all of this.


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#72236 - 02/10/04 06:28 PM Re: Hola everyone
Brayton Offline

Registered: 10/21/03
Posts: 696
Loc: Minneapolis
Welcome Eddy.

I hope you continue to post on this board. The coupled challenge of having been abused and living as a gay man can be draining at times. You can find support and affirmation here. And also your sharing will help others.

Much of the gay "community" struggles with an age gap but abuse transcends age. No matter at what age we begin dealing with what was done to us, our fundamental similarity of experience makes us brother-survivors.

Congratulations on being alive and well enough to seek out support. I too am glad you found us.


Sometimes, things just won't work the way we want them to.

#72237 - 02/11/04 02:20 AM Re: Hola everyone
Steve P Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 02/09/04
Posts: 5
Loc: Salt Lake City, UT
Hello, everyone, I'm Steve. Hmmm. I must have tossed my other reply out. Well that just goes to show you how new I am to this discussion board! There are some kids in New York, maybe you know the ones I'm talking about, they're about 14, there are three of them and went through quite an ordeal last summer at a football camp - no details from me though - big trigger. Anyway, seeing you in here at 22, Eddy, gives me hope that they can find their ways through their darkness. Reading about them is what set me off and reminded me of my abuses - the stuff I suffered 30 to 40 years ago. I just turned 50. It is just so comforting to know that there are some younger people out in the world who know about this site, who are getting help now and not waiting. I see I'm not the only one who kept his mouth shut for 30 years or more!

Luckily I found a great therapist the deals with men like us and I've been with him since the end of October. He's finally managed to get me calmed down enough to be able to make some headway with me. Not feeling all that great today. I was doing well until about 3 this afternoon and the sun shining through the haze (it's very cold here in Salt Lake today) reminded me of a February day in Tucson in 1970 or 1968 or ....

Anyway, whatever happened in 1968 or 1970 or 1966 or 1971, I'm here now, today and that's what matters.

I'd bid you welcome, too, but since you've been a member longer than me, I would feel silly doing that! But I have to agree that seeing someone so young seeking recovery is fantastic.

Salt Lake City


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