Ken thanks for replying I realy do listen to what you say, and i am trying hard. I don't understand a lot of things about this and i realy don't know anything about the gay lifestye, or any life for that matter, but today I used the thought of a young adult to block a boy i saw, I don't no right from wrong on the homo deal any more but it worked, and what is more a mystery to me is that it does not revolve around sex. the farthest i have taken my thought of a young adult is a long kiss. My thoughts on them are dinner a long walk and a kiss, sex isn't in there at all and the pop up of the boy did not get through. I don't remember a time when i have ever thought about being with anyone whitout sex being the major theme. Ken that realy did and still does make me feel good. I fell like god is rebooting my hard drive, I don't fell i could be happy in a homosexual realationship, but i am becomming verry courious. What am i ? I have no desire for women and the thought of being with an older man realy sucks. Ken I have been alone so long as for as sex, intimancy, touching, being held I just want to be loved in that way so bad, and i don't know how. I know that am verry vaurnable right now because if i have the chance to be with an 18yr old I will jump at it. I miss the touch wt gave me when i was 16, the heat, the holding. I know you say take a deepo breath and be paitent but has anyone here been without that kind of companionship for TWENTY TWO YEARS???? ken i am so eager to move in that direction, or any direction that will take me away from the boys. I do know2 one thing and that is that I will be so happy when i start to work the first cause i am gonna be a regular supporter here, I fell like through god you guys are saving me and giving me a chance at having a life. thankyou so much dennis.