I'm starting to have mixed feelings about being outed. I kinda went though the same thing. And in a way I'm glad because now they know, and I don't think I would have told on my one. There where a few ripples here and there, those members of the pack of jaclels that I must call my family that don't like me, just disliked me more. The rest got over it. The only person whos reaction suprised me was my grandmother, who said "well, I'm not suprised he really enjoys watching changing rooms" and that was that she didn't care if I was gay or not.
Now, the vaidations issue. The "you can't really because you where sexualy abused" or "you need to see someone to make you normal(striaght)" and so forth. I got some of THAT too. And that I say "I'm here, I'm Queer, now please get off it"
Just be who you are and things will work out for the best.