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#71630 - 04/11/03 01:55 AM Re: I don't know
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
From Brother Mike to another Brother Mike.
The last thing we all want is to let our perps win. Doing what you are trying to talk about is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Mike you have been alone all your life with your personal hell. But you are not alone anymore. All of us here have only one thing to do and that is to support each other through the rough times and share in the joy of the good times. Mike I have read your posts and you are a sensitive guy and have helped many others. You have also given us your personal trust and that is something sacred especially to survivors.

You owe to yourself, your brothers here with you and the brothers who have yet to find this sanctuary or Wolf's Lair as I like to call it.

We have strength and purpose and we will all pull through this together.

Mike please be more gentle with yourself and acknowledge that you do have some real strengths and are important to us.

I am sure all of us have been lost and alone but no more. So stay with us brother wolf. The Pack needs you.

Mike Church



#71631 - 04/11/03 06:03 PM Re: I don't know
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
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Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hi Jeff,

I could not say anything to you that would be more insightful than what Ken wrote to you.

I think that many survivors of CSA think about kids at the ages they were when they were assaulted. Sometimes we become very protective of them, and sometimes we may think about them wondering if they have been abused.

Do you think that you might think about guys in a sexual manner as a way of trying to understand what it was in you that lead an adult to abuse you? Wondering if the kid you see would react the same way you have etc.

As Ken says, if this continues and makes you really afraid that you could possible step over the line, then it is time to see someone who knows a lot about sexual abuse issues.

But, don't create a crisis if there isn't one there. We usually have enough crises as it is.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

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