I think that is the difference between a survivor and a victim. Those who were abused and go on to abuse just stayed a victim and never became a survivor.

My mom (first perp) was abused herself as a child, and I was most likely even named after her abuser! If that is not horribly symbolic towards the cycle of abuse, I don't know what is!

And one day we will die
And our ashes will fly
From the aeroplane over the sea
But for now we are young
Let us lay in the sun
And count every beautiful thing we can see

Neutral Milk Hotel - In the Aeroplane Over the Sea