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#68519 - 11/25/03 09:27 PM my partner's perp....
PAS Offline

Registered: 06/12/02
Posts: 577
Loc: Canada
glah... every once in awhile I "google" the internet to see if there is any information on my partner's perp.. my partner has filed a complaint about this man with a professional association in our province and there is an investigation underway (apologies for the vagueness but in the interest of anonymity and to protect my partner and my identity in the course of this investigation I am keeping things intentionally vague).

So the other day I found an article written by a journalism student which talks all about this guy (the perp has been able to be close to kids his whole life) and all about how great this guy was, how much of a great mentor/influence he has been on his life, yadda yadda. It just makes me sick to see that this perp has gone on to continue (and even today) still be close to kids knowing what I know about what he did. And even more so to see that in some kids' lives he has been a positive force while he pretty much destroyed my fiance's life. I'll never see this guy as anything more than a sick bastard who deserves whatever is coming to him in both this life and the next...

Sorry but I cant hold in my rage every time I hear something about this bastard. He deserves to PAY big time for what he did to my fiance.

Which makes me wonder why the hell do I try to look this guy up - mostly because I'm looking for some tidbit of info. to let us know what is happening in this investigation - its all been pretty hush hush since the association took on the case.

The silence on this case is getting pretty annoying - some days i feel like a spring about to snap.. not knowing what is going on is driving me insane. Unfortunately my fiance prefers it that way. His approach to dealing with the stress of possibly confronting this guy in a hearing is NOT to deal with it.

Investigation against the perp, planning a wedding, partner in more intensive therapy, work woes.. no wonder I got mono!!!!!!

Rant over and out.


#68520 - 11/29/03 05:05 AM Re: my partner's perp....
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
Interesting PAS.

Recently, someone sent me and several other people something online about my old coach, a gossip type comment about what he 'does' with little boys. It was a comment by someone who has no knowledge at all about the situation, that was obvious. But it highly triggered me, especially since the person who sent it remained anonymous.

I hope that you are able to avoid looking more for information on this person, and that you hear of the investigation soon. Only official information can help you anyway, not the stuff you will find online. Good luck to you both.


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#68521 - 12/01/03 05:41 PM Re: my partner's perp....
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Registered: 06/12/02
Posts: 577
Loc: Canada
Hi - thanks for your note. I suppose the inforamtion you received may be of some help if you were to proceed iwth an investigation? I dont know.. in my partner's case I know there were many people who thought his perp was kind of suspicious.. I hope that these people have been contacted. And I hope that we hear something positive from this investigation soon. I do hope that this board finds in my partners' favour - if that happens I wonder if he could use this as grounds for a civil suit (suing this person). I just feel that so much has been taken from my partner and he could use a break - needs $$ for therapy and he really had his education stolen from him (was abused in a school setting and he subsequently gave up and dropped out).

Anyhow you are right I should stop looking for information on this person, and just wait...



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