I second this post - I have learned so much about the whole issue.. have been able to vent and rage on here, get another point of view, and 99 times out of 100 the view I get here is RIGHT ON with what is going on in my "real life".
And I too have the utmost respect and gratitude towards ALL the guys who have taken the time to write to me, to discuss, (and even argue
) with me on the various posts that I've made on here. Your honesty and candidness about your experiences and your recovery and the challenges therein have really made a HUGE difference in my life and my relationship with a survivor - and in turn with his own recovery.
I know its small comfort compared to all the pain and anguish of the abuse and its aftermath, but you really have helped to help me with dealing with my own feelings about abuse, and how it has affected my partner. I tend to look at my own abuse experience this way - nobody can undo the neglect and abuse and pain of having an alcoholic/abusive parent, but at least I can use that to help others who are currently struggling with family members trapped in the pain of addiction. The only way to really make sense of all of this, I find, is to "pay it forward".
You're one great bunch of guys!!