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#68475 - 01/18/07 10:34 PM ... sexual response in nonsexual situation ...
selene Offline

Registered: 11/10/06
Posts: 221
Loc: midwest

"And now here is my secret, a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye." ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery from The Little Prince

#68476 - 01/18/07 11:00 PM Re: ... sexual response in nonsexual situation ...
sweet-n-sour Offline

Registered: 10/03/06
Posts: 409
Loc: chicago
Thanks for sharing this Selene. Your point is presented with true honesty and it certainly helps us all to understand.

Best wishes,

"As long as he continues to try, I will meet him in that determination and commitment."

cm 2007

#68477 - 01/20/07 06:27 AM Re: ... sexual response in nonsexual situation ...
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Loc: Waldport, Oregon

Thank-you so much for sharing that experience. It helps me to understand so much.

Lots of love,


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#68478 - 01/20/07 04:49 PM Re: ... sexual response in nonsexual situation ...
duncanUK Offline

Registered: 12/24/06
Posts: 632

Sorry to hear of your experience. sorry if i dont have much more to say.


you dont see me. i am not really here. Its my fault.. all of it. I am to blame and no one else.

#68479 - 01/20/07 09:35 PM Re: ... sexual response in nonsexual situation ...
TJ jeff Offline

Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3576
Loc: Northern Wisconsin

I thank you for sharing this here - it is a problem many of us have felt

Nothing my uncle ever did was violent in any way (though he did mentaly pressure me much in the later years) - I hated my body very much for many years because it reacted so willingly to his touch - at that time I really felt that I should of been able to control the reactions of my own body - the fact that my body did respond caused me much confussion and shame...

It is something that we cannot be reminded enough... - the physical body respondes to stimulation - it is just the way the body is wired - not something we can control - there is nothing we can do to stop it... (lord knows I tried to stop it so many times)

I sure can't be reminded enough of how much it is not our bodies faults for responding to stimulation - just as it is not your fault for you body responding to the exam - and not ken's fault for responding to his perps actions - not my fauly either for responding to my uncle (man... - I need to remind myself of that more often...)

Take good care of yourself,

TJ jeff

Who will cry for the little boy? - I will... - Antwone Fisher

Abuse happens in silence/isolation - Recovery happens only when that silence/isolation is broken...

TJ's History

#68480 - 01/21/07 12:34 AM Re: ... sexual response in nonsexual situation ...
indygal Offline

Registered: 06/22/06
Posts: 439

thank you for sharing your experience - it horrifies me no end to think how you were disrespected - for a female teenager to be in a dr's examining room, w/4 health care professionals surrounding her, and clearly no effort was made to put you at ease - !!!

i don't know how long ago this was but i certainly hope things have changed at that facility. if it's not that long ago, perhaps you might consider writing a letter to the administrator.

that was totally, absolutely unacceptable.

all the best,

my avatar is one of the Battle Angel characters, fighting the good fight.


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