My unlikely candidate has to be one of my old bosses.
I was notorious at work for being mouthy and difficult, I just received my gold watch for 25years service this week - somehow ! :rolleyes:
But I've changed some recently.
About 6 or 7 years ago a new top manager started - a woman ! "what the hell would she know about the job ?"
And I went into my usual tactic of being even more arsey than normal.
Every month the maintenance section had a meeting with our boss, and I'd give him hell - he desrved it honestly. And for a couple of meeting this "woman" sat in and listened without saying anything important.
Then I was summoned to her office. Big surprise...
"Sit down David, tea or coffee ?" she asked with a smile.
I was confused by now, but stayed around - I had to, she was the big boss.
She then told me that she was impressed with what I said at the meetings, maybe not so impressed with HOW I said it but...
She said that everything I said I had at least thought about and, more importantly, believed in. And she respected that.
She then 'volunteered' me to sit on a couple of projects that she was chairing in the head office.
Now I'm a guy who gets his spanners out and repairs sewage pumps, I ain't used to this stuff and damn near turned her down flat. And said so !
I attended the projects and worked alongside directors and senior managers for about 9 months, part time.
And after the first few meetings I started to tell these people my views as well, a bit more politely by now though. And I interacted with them as I would with any other person, and they did with me.
Those I still know are now friends.
And I learned a very important lesson.
I wasn't as stupid as I thought I was.
Shortly after I started therapy.