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#68250 - 01/03/07 10:40 AM To the wonderful women on here
FormerTexan Offline

Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 12155
Loc: Denver, CO
At this moment I'm at work and fighting to keep from crying so that my coworkers don't wonder what's up.

I read the feedback of the women HERE , and I am amazed at the goodness. I am blown away by the tenderness. I keep fearing I'll be nothing but damaged goods to the woman I want to have a deep relationship with, and then comes rejection. The little guy in me needs to hear these good things from you. Thank you for your words.


Money talks, but all it tells me is goodbye.

If I could meet myself as a boy...

#68251 - 01/03/07 07:54 PM Re: To the wonderful women on here
sis Offline

Registered: 10/05/06
Posts: 195
Loc: Arizona
You know i am not in an intimate relationship with a csa survivor but I do have male survivors in my family and i am a female survivor. I have thought that too!! Who would want damaged goods? As i embark on my own csa recovery i am learning that the abuse goes back generations. I don't have a family besides my children. I have had to cut all of them lose but my grandad, who is very old and won't be around long. I have thought who is going to want someone who's own family dosn't care for. All screwed up thinking, i know, but i have still thought it many times. So, to here your honesty really helps me to realize that i am not alone. I suppose rejection is all part of it but if you find someone worth having they will love you reguardless of your past. I have to believe that for myself too. Yes, you are so right the women here are full of love and compassion and it's nice to see. light and luv, cathy

#68252 - 01/03/07 09:36 PM Re: To the wonderful women on here
wantstohelp Offline
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Registered: 08/17/05
Posts: 26

There's a whole world of people out there, and so many women who would never be anything but loving towards you after knowing what's happened to you. I know, for me, like I've said in my other posts, it actually makes me feel safer and closer to a person to know that they've been through something similar to me, and I've found that over the years, the men who I have fallen the most in love with have all (ok, there are 2 of them.. but that's still all of them!) been through experiences of CSA.

So please, please don't feel like you're damaged goods, or like this makes you less loveable, or less desirable in some way, because it's just not true! A good person, whether a friend or a lover, will NOT judge you for what has happened to you, and will love you not just in spite of it, but because you've been through so much and come out the other side with enough strength to not only get up every day and live your life, but also to appreciate those around you who love and support eachother.. which is obvious to me from your posting here.

So all my love and best wishes to you! And I wish you all the luck in the world in finding someone who deserves YOU.. because you so obviously are someone with a big heart who deserves the best.

Jess xo

#68253 - 01/04/07 08:38 AM Re: To the wonderful women on here
TJ jeff Offline

Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3594
Loc: Northern Wisconsin
I don't want to steal Andy's thread - but - I do want to say a very large thank you to the wonderfull women here who have talked with me in the past few months and gave me the courage to tell my girlfriend about my past yesterday (I had been agonizing over it for 2 months and the support here really helped me to be able to see that it really would be ok) - yes - she was the wonderfull supportive person I know she'd be

Andy - the right woman will come into your life - please don't give up hope

TJ jeff

Who will cry for the little boy? - I will... - Antwone Fisher

Abuse happens in silence/isolation - Recovery happens only when that silence/isolation is broken...

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