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#68246 - 12/31/06 10:42 AM greetings for the new year
indygal Offline

Registered: 06/22/06
Posts: 439
yes, hello, i know some of you will remember me, i see familar names and some newbies; good to be among friends but sorry this is still a familiar place \:\(

some good news to share - my trip back to the u.s. actually meant i managed to circumnavigate the globe and make it home in one piece, including a side trip thru the middle east which wasn't exactly planned until the last minute (had a conference to go to).

not too bad for a middle-aged broad who had been told she was "too old" to start a new career overseas back in 2003

computers everywhere were ssslllooooowwww and sometimes scarce (the kalahari comes to mind) but from time to time, i stole a glimpse into this site to see how things were going; sometimes i chided myself and reminded me to let go of some of the pain so i could actually enjoy myself - not always that easy.

update on my relationship: after 6 months, i received an email from him indicating my email address had been unblocked. we had spoken regularly (altho infrequently after i left the country) since he blocked it but of course things hadn't been the same; still, this was a noticeable improvement in his rebuilding his trust towards me and i'm very grateful for that.

the csa books i had ordered for him and sent to his address he told me he returned unread and expressed it as "a shame i should waste my money on him" i retorted it wasn't a waste but it was of course, his choice.

at least a door was opened for him he might not have ever seen before, or even knew it was there for him to go through. maybe in time, he will.

as for me, after all my travels and experiences, i saw everywhere evidence of csa, sexual exploitation, abduction and sex slave trade issues in such different terms; i suppose that will be permanent now, that is, it all seems so personal somehow, and for the life of me i can't understand why more isn't done in awareness, education, counseling, therapy, etc. go figure; until something hits us personally we just don't figure it's that big of a deal, human nature i suppose.

but i would like to wish you all a very happy new year, i hope the holidays were good for you all, or at least tolerable :rolleyes:

i can say this - at least now to some extent i know why he seemed to withdraw so deeply and completely during the holidays. it always hurt so vey much and i couldn't understand it - without knowing the details of what he's dealing with i can now accept his actions as not having anything to do with me and when he wishes me well the sincerity is there, it's real and is good to hear. but as always, if not for this website, i wouldn't have understood him so well now, found so much understanding and hope; and am so very thankful for all of you and the experiences you've shared and comments and advice you've proffered.

many blessings to all and all the very very best in the new year \:D

((((((((((((((((((really big hug))))))))))))))))))


my avatar is one of the Battle Angel characters, fighting the good fight.

#68247 - 12/31/06 08:55 PM Re: greetings for the new year
sweet-n-sour Offline

Registered: 10/03/06
Posts: 409
Loc: chicago
Dear Indygal:

A Happy New Year to you as well! This forum is certainly a fountain of valuable information for understanding the survivors in our lives. The support here has been remarkable.

I'm not sure if I have ever spoken to you directly in the past or not, but I do remember your postings. Thanks for the current update. I'm glad your travels returned you to the U.S. safely.

Best wishes,

"As long as he continues to try, I will meet him in that determination and commitment."

cm 2007

#68248 - 01/02/07 09:52 PM Re: greetings for the new year
Brokenhearted Offline

Registered: 08/07/06
Posts: 644
Loc: TX
Indygal, glad to hear from you. Like you this has been the year of csa and I seem to see it everywhere.

Yes, you've opened a door perhaps he didn't even know existed, and in enough time he may accept that gift.....I'm sure it just takes time, to accept that it happened to him, to accept it happens to anyone at all, to realize it causes problems unless addressed, to have enough self-regard to accept help, etc.

I wish you a Happy New Year also....may it be a better year for all of us on this board. I feel that things can't stay the same forever, so I am optimistic that these things will move along, slowly perhaps, but moving along still....


It were better for him that a millstone were hanged around his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.
Luke 17:2

#68249 - 01/05/07 05:25 AM Re: greetings for the new year
beccy Offline

Registered: 05/28/06
Posts: 449
Loc: england
happy new Year Indygal!


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