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#68050 - 11/08/03 03:58 AM Re: How can I make this easier for my wife??
helpmystephen Offline
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Registered: 03/07/02
Posts: 19
Loc: nyc
You have already received some great advise. Stride was right, Telling your wife is a big steps and shows how much you care for her. Your wife is very lucky that you are beibg so open with here! I have found that while I don't know many of the details of what happened to my husband, I would really rather know where he is in his head. If he had a bad dream or feels vulnerable or scared. However, he doesn't open up to me and it makes things really difficult, which results in my feeling rejected. I understand that talking to your wife about all of this may be taxing, maybe if there is something that you want her to understand you could try to write her a letter. This will give you the opportunity to say what you want without interruption and her the chance to understand what you are saying. Good luck.

#68051 - 11/08/03 05:19 PM Re: How can I make this easier for my wife??
learning2remember Offline

Registered: 10/21/03
Posts: 403
Loc: Europe
Thank you, thank you, Thank God for you.

"This is not my shame, this is their shame." Mona Eltahawy

#68052 - 11/08/03 06:34 PM Re: How can I make this easier for my wife??
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI

On our front page, just under where you log in to the Discussion Board are the Myths about male sexual abuse, then under the next link Reporting sex abuse is the link to Ten facts about SA of Boys and the effects. If you wife reads nothing more, I would really suggest that she reads these. Also introduce her to the family and friends forum. The women there are wonderful and very understanding.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

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