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#67643 - 09/09/03 06:28 PM should I tell
JonathanKhonsu Offline

Registered: 04/18/03
Posts: 72
Loc: PA
I am a survivor. I wwhanted to get perspective by both survivors and freinds and family of survivors. My dad knows that I wwas abused. We never talk about it. In some ways he was never ther for me as a child and I still don't trust him. he sometimess got drunk and violent though he seems different now. one time I was so scared I flashed. I unintensially hurt him to get away.
My mom is kind of feble. She is a teacher,, always had time for her kids, but somtimes I wonder if she had time for me.

One of my past theropists broke confidetialty and told my mom that I had been Assulted. She didn't beleive him. but once in a wile she says something in passing to me. I question if I should tell her the trueth or lie to protect her.

I'm having nightmeres again and there have been questions about why I have been up all night.

"Ave atque Vale"

#67644 - 09/10/03 03:21 AM Re: should I tell
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1984
Loc: Flint, Michigan

The answer this question lies within yourself. Only you can decide if you are ready.

If you continue lie to your mother as she asks you, this could make her doubtful if you decided to tell her later. Lying has effects other than the getting out of the question for now.

Why is your mom asking you about this? Could she be concerned? She may be concerned about you and how this affects you. She is providing you the opportunity to open up to her. Making it much easier to talk about this than if you were to pop it on her out of the blue.

I personally have not told anyone outside of my pdocs and T, besides my ex-wife that tried to use it against me. This has left a bitter taste in my mouth. My mom over the past year has said some things that make me thing letting her know about it wouldn't be the best idea.


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