Newest Members
jez, Long Way Home, Bcbornleo, Orko, molander
13593 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
Etele (22), isign2u (55), Mark R. (66), noid (68), TheTraveler (55)
Who's Online
2 registered (2 invisible), 22 Guests and 4 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
13,593 Registered Members
75 Forums
70,677 Topics
493,601 Posts

Most users ever online: 418 @ 07/02/12 11:29 AM
Page 3 of 3 < 1 2 3
Topic Options
#67359 - 09/18/03 08:31 AM Re: Why stay?
Marcs friend Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 08/15/03
Posts: 16
Loc: Maine
I agree - except that I think love is much stronger than hate or pain - when it's offered with unconditional acceptance of the other person. There has to be the feeling of 'I love you and I'm here for you no matter what' that the survivor can accept and trust.

but it sure isn't easy

#67360 - 09/21/03 11:45 PM Re: Why stay?
lindts Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 09/09/03
Posts: 26
Last year before my SA bf confided in me, life seemed perfect. Recently he confided in me about the SA and life has been turned upside down. But I refuse to leave him because I love him and whatever good/bad things happen in life, I want him at my side. It's been extremely hard, but I try to squeeze all the happiness from all the little "okay" days that he has or even his "half-smiles" and cherish them. I wouldn't go back to the perfect days of last year because then, unbeknownest to me, we were hovering like a helicopter. He was acting happy yet living an inner hell. Now that we are on the long journey to recovery, our relationship is moving FORWARD, ever so slowly, 4 steps forward, 3 steps back, snails pace even, but my eyes are open. He loved and trusted me enough to confide in me. I don't want anyone else but him. He may not be perfect (neither am I), but he's perfect for me.

#67361 - 09/23/03 12:09 AM Re: Why stay?
Lloydy Offline
Administrator Emeritus
Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
that's so good to hear, I just wish we could spread you guys around every single survivor in equal measures.

We who have partners like you sometimes don't fully appreciate just how much support and love you give us.

It's late here in the UK, and it's time to go to bed - and tell Linda how much I love her.

( but I shouldn't need reminding should I ? :rolleyes: )


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

Page 3 of 3 < 1 2 3

Moderator:  ModTeam, peroperic2009 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.