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#66304 - 10/20/06 06:41 PM self destruction
sweet-n-sour Offline

Registered: 10/03/06
Posts: 409
Loc: chicago
Wow, the past few months have been a trying time to say the least. There has been a consistency that I've noticed with my husband in the twenty or so years that we've been together. He has a path set to not take care of himself very well. I never understood the how or the why he would undermine his well being. Throughout the years he's swung from drinking in excess, smoking, overspending, compulsive behaviors, then back again. I understand it all a lot better now (csa) but I really wish he would adopt healthy coping mechanisms as opposed to the unhealthy. I realize I can not control his behaviors and I know he has to take responsibility for himself but I worry about his health. He's going through so much right now and all I can offer is my support. I'm just curious if anyone has adopted healthy coping habits.
I understand that he is doing the best that he can under difficult circumstances. Any ideas, books or recommendations would be most appreciated.
Thank you,

"As long as he continues to try, I will meet him in that determination and commitment."

cm 2007

#66305 - 11/01/06 04:56 PM Re: self destruction
sis Offline

Registered: 10/05/06
Posts: 195
Loc: Arizona
S&S, Lead by example. When we suffer from csa, one of the biggest deals are self care, That usually shows me how i am doing. Professional help suggestion, if not already doing it. light and luv Sis


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