I like the 3 points you are after but I think before the healing starts, you have to end the silence as you stated in the title. The story has to be told before you move on to the healing. You just can't heal. You have to release the pain and acknowledge the abuse first. As for myself I had trouble verbalizing it. As I fought to acknowledge what happened, the beast fought back with extremely violent nightmares, always with a common theme, reminding me that the decision I made to come forward was bad and I would be severely punished. I went through periods of weeks without a good sleep, always afraid to close my eyes. 46 years old and afraid to go to sleep. That testifies to the control these events have over your life.
Idea's / thoughts to work in:
Childhood effects. For me this is a tally of losses starting with your childhood and the ability to trust. If you trust no one, you keep silent.
As you develop through life you become dysfunctional. I experienced depression, despair, no self esteem, nightmares, memory loss, alienation, sleep disorders etc. etc. The biggest loss I think for me personally was the inability to care about someone. My feelings had been numbed. How can you love if all you have learned through life is not to trust anyone. I allowed people close but they only saw what I allowed them to see. I essentially had constructed a castle-wall between myself and the outside world. Intimacy was sex only. When a girl asked me to describe my feelings I just stumbled and ran for the door. I still stumble to this day. I never married and have no kids. As I stated in my introduction to the group, I feel like I have traveled through life as 2 people and this feeling is only just starting to drift away.
In the next section I think you have to let people know the story has to be told so one can start the healing process. Also stress that they are not alone and there are people out there that will listen. They can be trusted.
As for the healing, I am just starting to feel the joy. I can look in the mirror and I like who I am. At 47 I feel reborn. The abuse happened, it has been discussed and I understand the effects it had on me. Those effects made me into a person I did not like. I am now proceeding forward, each day trying to live my life better and always keeping a good thought.
If I have any more idea's, I will send them off.
Sad point here. This is the first time I have made certain feelings known.