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#64571 - 03/09/03 02:38 AM Re: Sad and Alone
guy43 Offline

Registered: 11/17/02
Posts: 450
Loc: Minnesota
Serafina, Crushed and anyone else I missed,

It is hard and sad and lots of other feelings I imagine when these relationships don't work out. What I've been seeing is that just as survivors have amazing strength and resiliance, their partners have as much or more. I'm sorry things haven't gone better for you.

White Cat,

Your friend is indeed wise. What a letter he/she wrote to you. I'm moved to tears because I recognize myself as one who has been in the "fog".

Lucky are those survivors who have partners willing to see beyond the carnage of their pasts.


I've just followed four or five posts you've made in this forum. Your post about the three child types and of personal boundaries is so on the mark. Just because I'm a survivor of abuse doesn't mean I have license to trash another human being's boundaries or to behave in an irresponsible manner; something that seems to get lost sometimes I fear.

Thank you all for sharing here. It helps to see what others go through when in relationship with a survivor.

I'll say it again, lucky are those survivors who have partners.


#64572 - 03/09/03 10:47 PM Re: Sad and Alone
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
Sometimes I feel so lucky, because I know how often I've been a complete pig to my wife.

The pain and effort you all put in as survivors partners is way more than I can imagine, let alone appreciate.

I also feel that losing your support is a great loss to those guys, they must be feeling terribly confused.


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#64573 - 03/10/03 12:26 AM Re: Sad and Alone
Whitecat Offline
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Registered: 03/02/03
Posts: 7
Yes, someday there is nothing but "...terribly confusion"... and it is the pits!

But I to quote Robert Goule (Camelot) " ....If ever I were to leave you..."

it it so hard on everyone!

White Cat

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