My boyfriend and I were together for two and a half years. Our time together was difficult. Not only did we live in different cities, but my boyfriend was dealing with his abuse issues and had been clean for about 6 months. He goes to counseling and things have gotten much better for him. When we met, he was having nightmares, not sleeping, lots of flashbacks. I was very naive to anything regarding sexual abuse and violence. He had been very violently abused as a very young child by a family member. So it was not always easy for me to know what to say or do and I admit that I often times said and did things that hurt him. But here we are now and we are trying to salvage any sort of relationship with each other, even if it is just friends. We fight constantly. He never feels like I do enough. I don't support him like he wants, I am not angry enough, I am not sweet enough, I am not emotional or I am too emotional. Nothing I do is right-ever. He is constantly angry with me. He feels like I stand up for everyone except him, I disagree completely. But I do feel like he needs to control his anger and actions if he wants to get live in society. There are certain ways to behave. You can't just blow up at people because they say something that offends you. I guess you can, but you won't get along in life very well. He has never had any close friends since I have known him, this worries me alot. He has been living at home with his parents for several years, while getting his life back together and is about to move out on his own again. We have to be apart. I don't know what will happen. We are both so resentful and frustrated with each other even after having survived so much. I come here to learn what I can, I went to partner support groups, helped find him counseling and he just seems to hate me sometimes. I am never enough and never do enough. Like I have said so many times to others. He wants me to be his savior, but we both know I am not.