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#63765 - 12/06/02 07:46 PM Just discovered this website
beth Offline
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Registered: 12/06/02
Posts: 2
My friend just told me about an incident that happened 30 years ago as a child. How do I help? major issues are trust and anger. thanx.

#63766 - 12/06/02 09:02 PM Re: Just discovered this website
JamesMichael Offline

Registered: 07/24/02
Posts: 134
Dear Beth,

Your a pretty decent friend to want to know how to help. I suggest your surf some of the posts throughout this site and see where everyone is coming from. It's a great organization. You may especially want to view the Bookstore recommendations as well as some of the articles written by professionals and survivors both.

This site and its participants have greatly enhanced my recovery and enriched my life. Five months ago I was in complete funk. I attribute this site to motivating me to take hold of my recovery and life. I've said things here that I've not had the strength to say elsewhere. Today I am stronger, happier, more decisive, and kinder.

When the time is ready, please invite your friend to visit this site. I will be happy to correspond via e-mail with you or him if I can help point either of you in a useful direction.

You may want to re-post and state more concerning what your friends issues are, or the nature of his abuse so that I and others can reply more specifically.

I wish you and your friend well.

Best Regards,


"Be rather than seem to be."

#63767 - 12/07/02 02:00 AM Re: Just discovered this website
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
what can I possibly add to James' message ?

Ask what you like, read what you can and be there for your friend.

We're here to help


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#63768 - 12/07/02 03:49 AM Re: Just discovered this website
Wuamei Offline

Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...

I ditto JM & Lloydy.

If only more of us survivors had more friends like you!

Last year I just started remembering a childhood of abuse that ended 35 years ago.

I'll also be glad to help anyway I am able to.

Take care


"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

#63769 - 12/10/02 03:07 PM Re: Just discovered this website
beth Offline
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Registered: 12/06/02
Posts: 2
Thank you everybody! I am so grateful to find this website and all the resources available. I will do some reading and write back once I have more questions/concerns. Thanks again.


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