I'm Babs and about 2 years ago my husband of 21 years recovered memories of Sexual Child Abuse that had occurred about 40 years ago. This situation has made our relationship stronger, but can best be described as " the emotional rollar coaster ride from HELL !!".
One of many good resource sites that I have discovered is called Men's Web Magazine. Located at http://WWW.VIX.COM.
One subject area that can be reached from the home page is on Male Sexual Abuse. Definitely check out the writings of Scott Abraham, the webmaster of this site. He is a survivor of mother/son incest. His experiences are difficult to read about, but his strength is amazing. Your husband probably feels shame and guilt thus isolated by the SA and I think reading about Scott will show him he is NOT ALONE and has done nothing wrong. I even emailed Scott Abraham about my husband and he graciously responded.
Although I feel I am an amatuer therapist at times with my husband you both need to find professional help. The therapist can provide one important thing that you and your husband cannot achieve, either together or alone. The therapist can provide PROSPECTIVE, because they are not personally involved.
It has been very hard at times to help my huband realize that he was not to blame for the horrors that he suffered through. Keep reading and keep him talking/communicating with you.
You will be in my thoughts... Babs