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Sammy, I LOVED giving birth, (I was about to say I loved getting pregnant but then I realized that was slightly offtopic) I felt so strong while I was in labor, even the pain was okay because I felt like I was in control of it.
I went the other route and totally detached during my pelvic exams, the gyns were all very appreciative and amazed..."How did you ever get so relaxed..."
By the way I was 15 and my boyfriend was 17 when we had our first child, no one asked either one of us anything about sexual abuse in our past, only how many partners I'd had and if my pregnancy was planned. That still pisses me off.
With my second I went past the due date, my doctor decided to try something called stripping the membrance of my cervix which basically means irritating and pulling a thin layer of skin off of the cervix to try and stimulate labor. He sort of asked my permission beforehand, he said, "Can I try stripping your membranes" but did not really explain what it was before starting to do it. Then I guess he figured getting my permission once was good enough because the next time I went to the doctor he went to do the pelvic and when there was still no dilation he just stripped the membranes again without asking first... then was very casual about "Oh, there may be some spotting later..."
This same guy delivered my baby and was just not receptive to what I was feeling and saying. When I told him the baby was coming and perhaps he should NOT take his sweet time scrubbing up, he just smirked and said all the ladies say the baby's coming now, it will be some time yet... Well the baby was coming NOW and he ended up having to run back into the room and deliver her in just gloves and his shirt and tie which of course got ruined