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#61660 - 05/15/01 03:55 PM What to do?

Um, hi. I'm new to all this, i didn't realise the internet was so helpful when coming to solve problems. There's all this stuff everywhere Suicide, abuse, Euthnasia.
Anyway, the real reason i am here. My boyfriend was abused last year when he was only just 15 year's old. He never told anyone (until he told me quite recently) and as a result tried to commit suicide and self harmed for a long time. When he told me, my entire heart melted because he felt that he could trust me enough to tell me. But now i don't knwo what to think, some nights i lie awake just thinking how awful it must have been for him. I don't really know what to do. Talking to someone who is a friend, family or spouse would really be beneficial for me i think, woulod it be possible for someone to post me a reply or an e-mail. SO i'm not alone on this?
Love and hugs

#61661 - 05/15/01 09:09 PM Re: What to do?
Brian B14 Offline

Registered: 05/04/01
Posts: 122
Loc: New York

Your boyfriend has gone through a tramatic experience. If he has attempted suicde already, he is in dire need of some professional help. Try to encourage him to seek help. If he refuses, you have a difficult decision to make. His suicidal thoughts are the first thing that must be dealt with, then he can deal with the issues that caused his suicidal thoughts. My advice is to contact a suicide hotline and tell them what is happening. They will be able to point you in the right direction.You may feel as though you are breaking violating his trust in you. Don't feel that way. The trust that he has in you can always be built back up. When he feels better, he will understand that you just wanted to help him.

Hannah, there are many people out there who are trained to deal with this stuff. You need some help with this. You can not be expected to take this on by yourself. I would also advise you to tell your parents whats going on. You too, need some support in these circumstances.

Good Luck and may God bless both of you.


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