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#61450 - 04/19/06 07:37 PM Hello

Registered: 09/23/05
Posts: 178
Dear all

A quick update. We've just got back from a short break in France which was lovely and meant we avoided all the easter chocolate,big bonus for our waistlines.

We, he, I continue to do well. We're both having a break from T's for a while and concenrtaing on putting it into practise, oh, except for the couples psychosexual therapist, hmmm I still cringe a bit. It goes a bit like this..

PSTherapist- Right right right, jolly ho, LOVELY to see you both,lets get cracking, lets talk about sex.
US- Okeeey, easy now....

Wedding plans are going a treat and apart from our outfits and a couple of details we're all set!

A really happy little survivor moment passed by when we on holiday.. my partner "D" was having a bit of wobble ie; he got withdrawn and felt a bit disorientated and threatened, (he didn't work out what tiggered him)and I asked him about it and if he was OK etc.. I will treasure the next bit for a long time... he looked over and said, "I'm out of kilter but dont worry, normal business will resumed shortly, then he smiled and winked" My heart just swelled.

I'm not sure if it will come across in this post but this just spoke volumes about his confidence in himself, his conviction in his own ability to get out of a hole and the fact that he feels big and the abuse feels small. Its there and it threatens him but its not bigger than him anymore and it doesn't define him.

I can hardly believe that I'm writing this and it feels hard to remember where I, he, we were 9 - 10 months ago.

I hope if you embarking on this healing journey this might give a little hope. Ten months ago we were in such a dark place. Lifes not perfect and we stil have difficult times but boy am I glad I/we stuck it out!

Love to all


#61451 - 04/19/06 07:55 PM Re: Hello
Trish4850 Offline
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Registered: 10/15/05
Posts: 3280
Loc: New Jersey

What a wonderful story. You both deserve all of the happiness that's been coming your way.

I really love this and can't wait 'till my b/f reaches that point of understanding.

the fact that he feels big and the abuse feels small. Its there and it threatens him but its not bigger than him anymore and it doesn't define him.
What a beautiful place to be.

ROCK ON.............Trish

If you fall down 10 times, Stand up 11.

#61452 - 04/19/06 08:12 PM Re: Hello

Registered: 09/23/05
Posts: 178
Thanks Trish

Its there for him. From everything you've said about him and his efforts I realy believe he'll get there. I honestly think human endurance and ability to thrive is incredible.



#61453 - 04/20/06 04:31 AM Re: Hello
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire

a happy post!


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#61454 - 04/25/06 12:54 PM Re: Hello
riviera Offline

Registered: 06/01/05
Posts: 59
Loc: Spain

I haven't been around in a while.

Partly cause many positive changes have been made due to the fact that my boyfriends confidence and belief in himself is translating now in great achivements. Firstly with himself and then with family especially (this was BIG issue).

But I don't forget MS and all the support I (and him) have received. That's why I'd like to support Tracy's great news and the fact that recovery is possible when there is love, commitment to communicate and help each other in both ways and lots of pacience.

Congratulations Tracy !!


#61455 - 04/25/06 10:05 PM Re: Hello
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

I remember how heartbroken and distressed you were back in those dark days. Remember our PMs? So I am all the more delighted to see things working out so well for the both of you. It's great to get good news like this.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#61456 - 04/26/06 02:15 AM Re: Hello

Registered: 09/23/05
Posts: 178

Thats fantastic news. I understand when you say you don't forget MS. Me neither. It and the people on it are truly amazing, I'm really pleased that you and your SO are doing well, congratulations to you too.

Thanks Larry, you are absolutly right I was heartbroken. I couldn't believe that I / we'd be where we are now. A big special thanks to yourslef and also Dave LLoyd for some incredible support and information in those early days.

I honestly will never forget either of you.




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